I recently read that it is harder for women who stay home to lose weight than those who have a job...no kidding. I could have told you that.
Just this past Christmas I experienced the ease at which I avoided bad food and overeating all due to the fact that I was around people. I wasn't lonely, bored with day to day housework, I was having fun and I had people to talk to. I had something other to do than clean the toilet and wipes up kid messes. I love my kids and I would not dream of doing anything else but it has come to a point where I need to get out more and I'm sure the kids would enjoy it too! I mean, I have more than enough to do, don't get me wrong. Being a mom is the hardest thing ever but part of that hardship, for me, comes from loneliness especially in a one car household. Daddy has the car at work, we are stuck here, daddy works at a prison so we cannot even call to say hi during the day.
We don't live in a place where I have a ton of other stay at home moms living close by, there is no walking to the store or friends houses. There is not a place or thing for me to do for all of the workdays other than be here alone, working and caring for children. I end up feeling sad, and thus thinking about food a lot. I think this must happen to a lot of women who are stuck like this. We didn't plan on being a one car family for this long, but it has been over 2 years already! WOW, no wonder I get a little lonely.
I'm not trying to say all is lost but, it is just hard. Over the holidays it was so GREAT to get out and see people. I actually didn't eat junk and I came home hungry! I also felt, happy. That is a big deal to just feel happy and content. I tell ya, being at home, I have way too much time to think. My kids are still toddlers so the conversations aren't exactly adult like at all. They are fun and wonderful but they cannot give mommy everything she needs.
Another thing that comes from being away from the house is a great appreciation for home once you get back to it.
I do not know what the solution is yet but I need something, I need to figure it out.
I wish I had an easy answer for you on this one. I'm not a stay-at-home parent but I can agree that being at home for me, too difficult when it comes to food. Do you have a park near by that you and the kids could go to? What about a walk or bike ride? I know those don't necessarily last for hours but I'm just trying to come up with ideas, lol. Although parents do love their children to death they still need adult time/conversation (I'm just going by things my sister has said since I am not a mom yet). I wish you the best and hope you come to a solution that will help make your days a little easier :)
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ReplyDeleteSeems every time I invite people during the day they are too busy. I would so make time to drive to their house if I had a car! lol I'll clean their kitchen for them if it meant I get to visit with a friend for a bit and get out of my own house. :)
Some ideas: Try reaching out to folks on the T-Tapp forums to see if there's anyone around your area. Try MeetUp.com for the same reason, but that's not restricted to T-Tappers so you can meet people of any kind of shared interest. You can even start your own Meetups. Look for one (or two?) things per week that would get you out to meet people. For example, going to hear an author read at a bookstore, visiting garage/yard sales, taking the kids to see pet adoption days at pet stores (just to pet/see the animals not to take them home). Just make sure they are interactive trips rather than, say to the library where people don't talk to each other.
ReplyDeleteI actually have a harder time when I'm working than when I'm home -- but then I don't have kids so that probably makes a big difference.
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Thanks for sharing your ideas! I'll go check out your blog. :D
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